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I've decided to cull my facebook friends. I only want a hundred of them. It think it's a great number (100), a nice round number. I'm not interested in building a huge bank of online acquaintances and facebook is no fun unless people interact or there's some commonality, or at least a decent amount of knowledge of each other.
I don't have a lot of friends, as I grew up mostly in church and didn't think to befriend many of the 'unsaved'. I left all my lifelong friends back at the cult and it was them that kept me in there for so long. The thought of starting life with no friends was extraordinarily daunting, but I am soooooooooooooooooo glad I got out when I did, especially for my kids.
I found that friends are really difficult to maintain outside of church systems. There's no pastor to mediate between friends after a fight, or to handle money problems between them. People aren't as blindly forgiving as church friends were (I could be a dickhead and people would 'have' to forgive me asap). And friends were much more regularly seen and all had the same common delusion to ramble on about.
Although I may be friend and attention needy now after so many years of religiousity, I don't want fake friends and I've got a rough set of criteria for my facebook:
- I cut someone today for talking about how great church was this weekend... I don't come on to facebook to hear about your cult and the poor saps who got converted into it on the weekend. That's just depressing.
- If you haven't ever responded to me after numerous posts on your facebook.. I may not be a fantastic person but at least talk to me once.
- If you've been inactive for 3 months. Maybe you're over it?
- if you have over 400 friends than I think you may be collecting numbers and not friends.
- If you don't have a picture of your actual face on your facebook profile, it sort of defeats the purpose, by definition. Don't be ashamed of your face. If you really have a problem with the shape of your head, do something artistic, and just show your nose, or the back of your head.
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I couldn't agree more. I'm very picky with my friends, especially on fb. I got to show you a post that I did on my Sanitarium blog on how to answer the "believers" question, "What if you're wrong?"
Cool, now I can delete some dross from my fb, "There can only be 100" - sort of like Highlander but umm x100. Also sort of like the smurfs if you're up with the orginal smurf lore.
I'm bored with atheism lately. I actually want to live the fantasy of believing in a christian god for a while, if only to pretend there's an afterlife. Whether this be a good or bad thing, I don't care. As long as it makes me smile.
As someone who just joined Facebook and is still trying to figure out what the point is, this was a very timely post. So far, I'm planning to keep my FB friends limited to people I'm actually acquainted with in the real world. Maybe at some point I'll be interested in expanding, but for now, I don't plan to exceed 20 or so.
okay, i'll be your friend, but i'm not on facebook; i'm on myspace. my journey begins on the right side, under "about me":
www.myspace.com/donna_ellis
peace 2 U.
Facebook?
Nah...not into it at all.
Full On wank (not surprised Obama is using it for political gain)
Online buds can be very fickle....
HoHoHo Mothy
Have a merry christ mass
Hi Peter :)
I think I'm one of your culled ones from FB LOL (that's cool!)
I don't see myself as a wanker because I have over 300 contacts on mine, now you have me worried people might think that of me! LOL
Yes I do let people from all over the world add me if they have a common link/bond to me eg Cavalier dogs, Tinnitus and people that suffer with similar health issues to me, and people I have met on various forums:)
I have found for me, personally that it has been very supportive getting to know people I wouldn't have otherwise gotten to have known.
It's mostly been a positive experience for me. I am not about showing off or being fake in anyway.
I wish you all the best in your journey through life Peter!:)
Your blog looks great btw, I think I may have put up a link to it in my own blog ages ago, if it's still the same one? :)
Kind regards
Jules (Julie-Anne with tinnitus)
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